A Family Wedding Reflects a Family’s Intention

A Family Wedding Reflects a Family’s Intention

I attended my nephew’s wedding this past weekend and it was one of those moments out of time.  From the beginning of the day spent with my large extended family to the end of the day at the wedding, I felt completely in the flow of life and love.  I’ve been thinking about what made up this experience since returning home  and here’s what I came up with.

Among my family members, I think there is an ongoing intention for being with each other in ways that support enjoyment, ease, good humor, and acceptance.  There are a variety of differences among us – religious, political, lifestyle, health challenges – but underneath I believe there is a deep commitment to connection and care.  We’ve worked at this, individually and together, attending to adjustments and adapting to changes.

This hasn’t always been easy as there have been many challenges and obstacles to negotiate,  but I think what has sustained this process is a deep abiding commitment to love, to holding each person in high regard and value, and to recognizing that time with each other is precious and limited.  Spending it in any other way other then love, connection, and enjoyment would devalue our lives and the lives and efforts of our parents.  Appreciation rises in my heart each time I bring this to mind.  It’s a delicious feeling.

Is there an action to take that would create a deeper connection and sense of care in the important relationships of your life today?

Suzanne Kilkus, PhD

Suzanne Kilkus, PhD believes that being open to learning defines the ease of our lives. And that our capacity for giving and receiving love defines the depth of our lives. She delights in assisting couples and individuals in creating greater ease and more love in their lives and relationships. She lives, laughs and loves with her husband, Steve, in Madison, WI and can be reached at heartspace@charter.net.