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What was great about today? What magical thing did you see or experience?

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What was great about today?  What magical thing did you see or experience?

Here are a couple more questions that can wake us up to a deeper and richer life. The first two questions I offered in my last two blog posts were: Read: What is it you’ve done today that you’d like to be acknowledged for? Read: What act of kindness did you see performed today? Consider this: If we aren’t looking for something we often don’t see it. Have you ever had this experience? Someone with you says they just saw something beautiful that took their breath away or something equally attention getting and you didn’t see it, hear it, or...

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What are all of these musicians doing?

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What are all of these musicians doing?

“My religion is kindness.” – The Dalai Lama What are all these musicians doing? In my last newsletter I offered a question to promote meaningful conversations between people like family or friends or co-workers. That question was “What did you do today that you would like some acknowledgment for?” I heard from people about the beneficial conversations that emerged in asking it – things like more connection, lightness, gratitude, feeling supported and cared for. I’m continuing this month with another question that shines its light...

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What have you done today that you’d like to be acknowledged for?

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What have you done today that you’d like to be acknowledged for?

What have you done today that you’d like to be acknowledged for? I received this question (along with four others) in an email recently. They are intended to spark meaningful contact between partners, family, friends, and even co-workers. I want to focus on this one here because it addresses a crucial need in close and essential relationships. We all want to be acknowledged, to be seen and heard for who we are and what we do – what we bring to the table of life that makes a difference to those close to us. We need to also acknowledge others...

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It’s all about love…really!

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It’s all about love…really!

It’s all about love…really! I know this might sound cliché and especially given that this is Valentine’s week and there is so much attention given to romantic gestures to express love and attachment. For anyone who pays attention, we know that romantic gestures alone don’t sustain love or relationship over time. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy romance and romantic gestures in my marriage. However, we need to have additional skills and developed senses to support what our hearts long for and need – to know that someone is here with us, that...

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No More New Year’s Resolutions!

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No More New Year’s Resolutions!

Consider this: Over 60% of all the resolutions made in the first month of the New Year are dropped by the end of January. The airwaves and print media have been filled this last week with lots of interviews, articles, and ideas about New Year’s resolutions. (This week there’s nothing which makes the point above!) Many folks make resolutions and it may be reflecting general dissatisfactions or a strong yearning for the sense of newness that comes with desired change. We are a culture of change; of expecting change, demanding change and yet...

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Season of De-Light

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Season of De-Light

The light is waning outside. It’s that time of the year.   What about the light inside of you? How is that doing? I’ve heard from many people about their waning internal light to match what’s going on with the sun heading south. Where are you finding light and delight in your life right now? Are you doing activities you enjoy each day? Do you find delight in your work whatever that is? Are you bringing light and delight to your relationships? This idea of light and delight came to me a couple of times this week. Greg Boyle, a Jesuit priest,...

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There is Always Assistance

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There is Always Assistance

Many years ago, I did a rock climb with a group of women, led by expert women climbers. I had heard that rock climbing was an excellent form of physical challenge and personal growth learning. I did learn a lot about myself on the rock face as security fears arose even though I was on a strong belay line that was being held by my friends and the leaders. There was one particular lesson that has stayed with me these years since and that lesson is “There is always assistance available.” There was a particular moment as I was climbing in which I...

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Facing Whitewater – an afternoon on the river

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Facing Whitewater – an afternoon on the river

I went whitewater rafting recently. It was the perfect thing to do on a camping trip with my two college friends. I suggested it as I had done it last year and had wonderful fun. I thought I had briefed them well – even about having to sign the “it’s a good day to die” form which is what the owner of the rafting company (minnesotawhitewater.com) playfully calls the consent form. While playful, he also is very serious about each person taking full responsibility for choosing to participate in this activity and supports it with taking every...

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Meditation and Happiness

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Meditation and Happiness

Meditation and Happiness In this article I want to give you a view of mindfulness meditation that hopefully will be an invitation for practice and/or support and encouragement for your journey.    As I’ve heard many teachers say, “It’s a simple practice, it’s just not always easy”.  With that in mind, let’s begin.  “What we live with we learn, what we learn we practice, what we practice we become”. As many of you probably know, this wise adage comes from the recovery community.  Over the years I’ve recalled it in connection with assisting...

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Change Happens!

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Change Happens!

Change Happens! I know that this is no surprise to most of us.  I say most of us because it seems that resisting change is quite rampant in our culture.  So many arguments on the news and so many social complaints are over changes that are occurring, suggested, or wanted.  In the last few weeks I have talked with a number of people about struggles that occur with making changes.  Struggles with change can make some sense when we think about how routine and habit driven much of our lives are.  When we do the same thing in the same way we go...

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