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“Listening is an act of love”

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“Listening is an act of love”

I recently returned from a wonderful vacation road trip during which I had some good time to listen to a variety of the life all around me. I realized again how important listening is to me, how important listening is to engaging life fully, how important it is to connecting to others, to creating harmony in close relationships. Saying this seems like I’m stating the obvious, but I witness a lot of struggles in listening – and not being listened to is one of the primary complaints I hear from couples about their relationship. David...

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Lessons from a Sitting Duck

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Lessons from a Sitting Duck

For three weeks this early spring we watched a mallard duck sit on her nest under a bush outside our front door. A pair of ducks has come the last several springs to this same spot. I don’t know if it is the same pair, but the same thing happens every year – the local raccoons discover the nest one night and have a feast on the eggs. It’s not a pretty sight in the morning to come out and see the egg shells scattered around the front yard. And I can feel pretty upset about this whole annual event. I want to keep the ducks from nesting here. I...

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Becoming a Heart-ist

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Becoming a Heart-ist

Have you ever needed to face or do something and you didn’t know where to begin? Or were handed a project that you didn’t know anything about? Or were given a life challenge and wondered how you would get through it? The truth is something of this nature comes up in our lives every day. If we get tangled in fear and decide we just can’t do it, our lives continue on their familiar routine route and we ignore the inner niggling tickle that inevitably arises in a louder form at midlife signaling the need for some change. I talk to people every...

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A New (Old) Spin on Things

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A New (Old) Spin on Things

Life is change… suddenly sometimes… slowly other times… but changes for sure. I work with change, assisting others to make changes for the better, in their relationships, personal, and work lives. I face my own changes each day as I look in the mirror, as I engage with loved ones and friends. As I move through my day I think I have a good and mindfully informed relationship with this fact of change. A few weeks ago on an ordinary morning as I was a few minutes away from leaving my house for the day, my husband told me he was...

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Helpful Questions for the New Year

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Helpful Questions for the New Year

We all need some help at times and good questions can be most helpful when we’re beginning anything. So I’m beginning this New Year with “wonder” questions which are the kind of questions

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Self-Imposed Holiday Stress or Expressions of Love and Care?

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Self-Imposed Holiday Stress or Expressions of Love and Care?

I’m asking these questions because I’ve been hearing a lot about holiday stress. It seems to be about our longing to

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Gratitude or Entitlement?

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Gratitude or Entitlement?

Gratitude or Entitlement? “If the only prayer you ever said in your life was Thank You, it would be enough.” – Meister Eckhart On an early morning walk during a recent weekend retreat, I felt a strong impulse to get to a high point on a hill as quickly as possible. It was the kind of urge that felt like it had a message in it. Rather than find a path to the top, I scrambled through tall prairie grasses and dried brambles. Once I reached my destination I realized what message was in the urgency I felt. Laid out before me in the eastern...

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Is Life like a balloon ride?

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Is Life like a balloon ride?

Is life like a balloon ride sometimes? “I can only control the up and down, I can’t control the direction we go in.” – Jerry, the balloon pilot Taking a vacation break last month had me thinking about the nature of time and about using life more deliberately. This wondering came from hearing someone say they wanted to leave this life all used up. That captured my attention. What would that mean? How would that look? Would I use my time differently? Then I did something this past weekend that gave some response to my questions. . I had...

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Possibilities (continued)!

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Possibilities (continued)!

I’ve been thinking about possibility… about bringing an attitude of possibility to whatever comes up during the day. Possibility thinking involves experiencing something and asking yourself some “wonder” questions like, “I wonder what might be another way to handle this?” or “I wonder what other thoughts I could have about this?”. It involves opening up to what wants to happen rather than trying to direct the course of things with old patterns and interpretations. For example, close relationships can suffer under the weight of old conflict...

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What was great about today? What magical thing did you see or experience?

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What was great about today?  What magical thing did you see or experience?

Here are a couple more questions that can wake us up to a deeper and richer life. The first two questions I offered in my last two blog posts were: Read: What is it you’ve done today that you’d like to be acknowledged for? Read: What act of kindness did you see performed today? Consider this: If we aren’t looking for something we often don’t see it. Have you ever had this experience? Someone with you says they just saw something beautiful that took their breath away or something equally attention getting and you didn’t see it, hear it, or...

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