Moods Mellow with Age!

Moods Mellow with Age!

Here is some good news for those of us in mid-life and beyond. Natural health physician and expert, Dr. Andrew Weil, reports that behavioral studies suggest that as we get older, many of us become happier, less driven by behavior patterns learned earlier in life, and have more control over our emotions, especially negative feelings.  We might say that getting older can be good for our emotional stability.  It’s been our experience that some of this happens naturally, that the aging brain is less reactive to fear and more open to positive experience probably due to integrating experiences that teach us to take a more relaxed view of the complexity of life.

However, the complexities of life can also feel more demanding of our emotional and material resources for us and our loved ones.  We can help ourselves create much needed stability and well being with some simple practices for brain and body health.

  1. Simple meditation practice of 10-20 minutes a day focusing on following your breath in and out can have profound effect on creating ease and relaxation throughout the day.  There’s no perfection about this practice.  Just giving yourself the intention of following your breath and bringing yourself back to your breath when you drift away into thought trains your nervous system for calmness.
  2. When faced with some emotional distress or challenge, take 3 full breaths of full inhale and complete exhale and then move your body around easily will help move your emotion through your body mind and rebalance your emotional state. This simple action resets your emotion button and refreshes or “reboots” your system.
  3. Standing, feel your feet solid on the ground, gently jiggle or shake your body staying in a user friendly mode.  This gentle jiggling stimulates your energy and often gets what is stuck, unstuck.  We call this the cosmic jiggle.

These simple practices can lead to self acceptance, compassion, and gratitude, all significant aspects of a life well lived.

Dr. Weil concurs with our view and experience.  “I think moods mellow with age because people are more accepting of change and less reactive to it.  In addition older adults place more events in the context of their life experience, which smooth over rough aspect of character.

May you help yourself today create greater emotional ease, stability, and satisfaction.

From:  Suzanne and Steve Kilkus

Suzanne Kilkus, PhD

Suzanne Kilkus, PhD believes that being open to learning defines the ease of our lives. And that our capacity for giving and receiving love defines the depth of our lives. She delights in assisting couples and individuals in creating greater ease and more love in their lives and relationships. She lives, laughs and loves with her husband, Steve, in Madison, WI and can be reached at

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  1. Hi, hope the wedding? goes well for you and the weather holds … !!. . Cheers. . Dave.